Is your child distressed when you separate from her at school/gan ?
Here are five useful tips:
- Ensure that your child feels safe and secure in his gan/school setting. They need to be comfortable with the Gan, Gannenet, teacher, and ideally feel adequately “attached” to one of the teachers. This allows them to let go of you/parent, and connect/attach with one of the teachers at the school/gan.
- Don’t prolongue the separation. Make the morning goodbye relatively brief. The longer you continue to hang around, the more difficult it can be for both of you to say a quite and pleasant goodbye.
- Provide your child with a transitional object – something that they take from home, or something that reminds them of you/parent [picture, doll, etc..]. This is for them to “keep” you with them during their day at gan/school.
- Create structured and consistent daily morning routines. The more structure and consistency, the more the child feels in control, knows and can predict what happens, and has a stronger sense of security and reliability. …the easier the transitions and separations.
- Prepare your child. Inform the child ahead of time of what will happen, and be clear with them that you will see them again [at a specific time], after lunch, etc.. Knowledge helps your child feel secure and gives them a sense of being in control .
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